"Just" friends!?!
Guys & girls being "just" friends. Not always easy, & sure as hell complicated at times. But yet, its fun. There are things that U just don't talk about with your guy friends. That's where the girl steps in, sweet, caring, sensitive - the little angels (hah!). There's also a certain playful element to these friendships that U just can't have with people of the same sex .
Here are some of the types of friendships that exist between guys & girls.
1: The Appeaser friendship
This is when the guy is head over heals for the girl. Worships the ground she walks on. Praises her all the time. Buys her gifts for no reason. Loves to secretly smell her hair. Agrees with everything she says, & does everything in his power to see that she is happy. Now & then gets a pat on the head in return. Dreams of fathering her children - will never get farther than perhaps having to baby-sit them. Might also have aspects of a Use-and-abuse friendship.
2: Leave-you-hanging friendship
Guy sees girl. Guy thinks girl is cute. Guy becomes friends with girl. Guy tells girl his feelings for her. Girl acts surprised. Girl might say "I'm not ready for a relationship right now". Girl conveniently forgets to mention that she doesn't like him in that way, & never will for that matter. Girl & guy still remain friends. Guy is hoping girl will eventually fall for him, or will become "ready" for a relationship. Never happens. Girl is just happy with the attention he lavishes on her - ego boost.
3: The Missed-Chance friendship
Guy & girl are great friends. There always was a spark, the chemistry was there. For reasons unknown to them, they always held a special place in each other's lives. No one acted upon it though, & before U know it, girl gets married. Guy is still friends with girl - thinks the world of her. Friendship grows even stronger.
4: The Relationship-that's-not-quite-a-relationship friendship
Guy & girl think they are best friends. While in actual fact, they are in a non-physical relationship. They do everything a couple does. Go to movies together, have candle-light dinners, strolls on the beach, endless phone conversations etc etc. But no one has admitted their feelings. Both are in denial that there is anything but a friendship going on. The rest of the world is sure they are going out. For the life of them, they can't understand why.
5: The Use-and-abuse friendship
Guy is in love with girl. Girl knows this & loves the power she has. Takes advantage of poor guy, who is more than happy that he can be off service to her. Girl uses guy cruelly, & the best part is, she gets him to 'volunteer' to do things for her. How?
"I have to drop off my dirty laundry to the laundromat. But I'm so tired. I wish I didn't have to go?" Followed by fluttering of the eyes.
Before U can say "use-and-abuse", guy is already racing to the laundromat with her clothes.
6: The Complain-a-friend friendship
This is where the girl only remembers the guy, when she needs to complain about something. She calls him, or meets him, simply to vent about her problems. Guy may try to slip in something about himself, but girl is too self-absorbed to realise that, & brings the topic back to her problems. Girl keeps guy in check by telling him what a great listener he is, & none of her other friends are like that. Guy gets his doggy biscuit.
7: The By-my-rules-only friendship
This friendship can be in conjunction with any of the other types of friendships. Girl will only meet guy on her terms. Girl has full rights to cancel appointments that she made herself last minute. Girl also doesn't need to return any calls made by the guy, but guy must be available at the snap of her fingers. Guy should expect nothing, except what girl decides to offer him. Take it or leave it.
8: The cozy friendship
This is when guy & girl are great friends. They're totally comfortable in each other's company, & have deep respect & trust for each other. They can speak their mind, & be at ease with silence. They don't get overly emotional, & respect each others space & time. Can talk about absolutely anything under the sun. Guy & girl don't think of each other in a romantic way - never crosses their mind. Has the potential to become ugly if one of them does start developing feelings.
9: The Hit-and-run friendship
This is an explosive friendship. Guy & girl become friends very quickly. They spend an insane amount of time together, & really dig each other's company. Guy thinks girl likes him, & is leading him on. Makes his move & professes his love for her. She runs like there is no tomorrow.
Appendix: The ex-lover friendship
This type of friendship doesn't exist. Don't fool yourselves. A guy & girl can't be just friends if they had a history together.
Here are some of the types of friendships that exist between guys & girls.
1: The Appeaser friendship
This is when the guy is head over heals for the girl. Worships the ground she walks on. Praises her all the time. Buys her gifts for no reason. Loves to secretly smell her hair. Agrees with everything she says, & does everything in his power to see that she is happy. Now & then gets a pat on the head in return. Dreams of fathering her children - will never get farther than perhaps having to baby-sit them. Might also have aspects of a Use-and-abuse friendship.
2: Leave-you-hanging friendship
Guy sees girl. Guy thinks girl is cute. Guy becomes friends with girl. Guy tells girl his feelings for her. Girl acts surprised. Girl might say "I'm not ready for a relationship right now". Girl conveniently forgets to mention that she doesn't like him in that way, & never will for that matter. Girl & guy still remain friends. Guy is hoping girl will eventually fall for him, or will become "ready" for a relationship. Never happens. Girl is just happy with the attention he lavishes on her - ego boost.
3: The Missed-Chance friendship
Guy & girl are great friends. There always was a spark, the chemistry was there. For reasons unknown to them, they always held a special place in each other's lives. No one acted upon it though, & before U know it, girl gets married. Guy is still friends with girl - thinks the world of her. Friendship grows even stronger.
4: The Relationship-that's-not-quite-a-relationship friendship
Guy & girl think they are best friends. While in actual fact, they are in a non-physical relationship. They do everything a couple does. Go to movies together, have candle-light dinners, strolls on the beach, endless phone conversations etc etc. But no one has admitted their feelings. Both are in denial that there is anything but a friendship going on. The rest of the world is sure they are going out. For the life of them, they can't understand why.
5: The Use-and-abuse friendship
Guy is in love with girl. Girl knows this & loves the power she has. Takes advantage of poor guy, who is more than happy that he can be off service to her. Girl uses guy cruelly, & the best part is, she gets him to 'volunteer' to do things for her. How?
"I have to drop off my dirty laundry to the laundromat. But I'm so tired. I wish I didn't have to go?" Followed by fluttering of the eyes.
Before U can say "use-and-abuse", guy is already racing to the laundromat with her clothes.
6: The Complain-a-friend friendship
This is where the girl only remembers the guy, when she needs to complain about something. She calls him, or meets him, simply to vent about her problems. Guy may try to slip in something about himself, but girl is too self-absorbed to realise that, & brings the topic back to her problems. Girl keeps guy in check by telling him what a great listener he is, & none of her other friends are like that. Guy gets his doggy biscuit.
7: The By-my-rules-only friendship
This friendship can be in conjunction with any of the other types of friendships. Girl will only meet guy on her terms. Girl has full rights to cancel appointments that she made herself last minute. Girl also doesn't need to return any calls made by the guy, but guy must be available at the snap of her fingers. Guy should expect nothing, except what girl decides to offer him. Take it or leave it.
8: The cozy friendship
This is when guy & girl are great friends. They're totally comfortable in each other's company, & have deep respect & trust for each other. They can speak their mind, & be at ease with silence. They don't get overly emotional, & respect each others space & time. Can talk about absolutely anything under the sun. Guy & girl don't think of each other in a romantic way - never crosses their mind. Has the potential to become ugly if one of them does start developing feelings.
9: The Hit-and-run friendship
This is an explosive friendship. Guy & girl become friends very quickly. They spend an insane amount of time together, & really dig each other's company. Guy thinks girl likes him, & is leading him on. Makes his move & professes his love for her. She runs like there is no tomorrow.
Appendix: The ex-lover friendship
This type of friendship doesn't exist. Don't fool yourselves. A guy & girl can't be just friends if they had a history together.
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